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Practical Alchemy
My aunt ended her five-year battle with cancer last Tuesday. While I was teaching hypnotherapy in south Florida, I visited her at home and knew it would be my last time with her. I am thankful I had the opportunity to sit with her and share my love and respect for her.
So, after two days of tears and honoring her life and memory, I decided it was time to begin healing. The outpouring of love and support I have received in the past week amazes even me. In this benevolent universe, we get what we need when we need it most. This is only one reason why I know life is good. What is your gift at this present moment?
I would like to invite you now to take a look at a challenge you’re currently facing in an entirely different way. Give yourself five minutes to receive this gift of transformation. For you “givers” reading this, it’s now time to become a “receiver.”
5 Steps to Transmuting Loss or Lack
1. Be with your feelings. Accept how you feel and acknowledge the situation honestly. If you’re out of money, be honest with yourself about your circumstances. If you’re sad about a breakup, admit you’re grief.
2. Affirm that this state is temporary. I like to think about it like the passing of the seasons. Everything is constantly in flux, and so the difficulty will pass.
3. Open your self to receiving what you most need now. If you need energy, get rest and eat well. If you need love, surround yourself with friends and family. If you need money, imagine it coming to you from every direction.
4. Heal your heart. Love really is all you need. Whether you want to attract money or heal from grief, moving into a state of love will transform your situation. So, open your heart, ask for support, or do something loving for someone else. Giving love is often the best way to heal your heart.
5. Look for the good in your situation. What do you have now that you didn’t before? Look deeply, and write down all the goodness that has or will come to you. Focus on these things, and be open to receiving them now.
Life is good. There is a gift in everything. And love is all you need.
Have a beautifully rich September!
Modeling Success in Business
In January of 2006, my maternal grandmother, Jessie Hunter, passed away after ninety-five exceptional years. I would like to dedicate this article to her, and share with you the model of her success.
Born Jessie M. Culp in Detroit, 1911, she was president of her high school graduating class, not for a small feat for a woman at that time. Her dynamic and gutsy personality sparked the interest of the eligible Fred Hunter, who left his family funeral business to be her husband. After the couple married, Jessie encouraged Fred to go to school and they eventually opened their own funeral home.
Fred and Jessie decided to relocate to south Florida in 1959 to find new opportunities. One day, while driving with her young daughter, my mother, Jessie noticed an ugly pink house with rotting white shutters on the windows. She immediately pulled over and thoughtfully said, “This feels right.” The couple bought the broken down house and transformed it into one of the largest funeral homes in Florida.
A few years later, an article in a prestigious trade magazine was calling Jessie a secret weapon, a woman so “tuned in” to others that she always gave them what they needed, whether it was to grieve and cry, or buck up and move on. In addition to her intuitive connection with others’ needs, I believe her success grew from her attention to detail. From the perfect lighting and music, to the tailored suits and polished cars, every aspect of the experience was managed perfectly, every need or want anticipated and met with caring and compassion. When Jessie and Fred retired from the funeral business, their company was known nationwide for exceptional care and service, and local families would frequently request Jessie’s person attention, even though she was no longer in the business.
There’s no denying my grandmother was a successful person, and since NLP is based on modeling successful, exceptional individuals, I would like to present here what I believe to be the model my grandmother used to not only make a comfortable living for her family, but in leaving a legacy to everyone who knew her. The following 10 points are the foundation of her success:
• Think right, and do right (based on your own convictions).
• Listen to “the man upstairs” and follow your gut in all decisions.
• Balance awareness of the “big picture” with the follow-through on essential details.
• Have confidence in yourself and fully utilize your skills and abilities.
• Ensure that all employees know and consistently uphold the vision and values of the organization.
• Cultivate caring and compassion for those you serve.
• Give extraordinary service and exceed the expectations of your customers.
• Build a community within the business that is both supportive and accountable to its members and the business.
• Participate in leadership positions wherever possible.
• Provide further education for all that desire to learn and grow.
I sincerely hope these pointers assist you in creating happiness and success in your professional life, just as they have in mine. Thanks for reading!
Turn that Frown Upside Down
Would you like 2010 to be more prosperous and joyful than 2009? If you’re like most Americans, you’ve experienced this country’s economic downturn. And, you probably know that it isn’t over yet. However, you don’t have to let these circumstances direct your fate!
This continued economic contraction is forcing a great majority of individuals to generate creative solutions to maintain their security and independence. Some have created their own jobs, gone back to school, or taken a second job. Others have let things get the better of them. Which will you be?
If you’re ready to think creatively to ensure your economic future, consider running the process below. It only takes twenty minutes, and it could mean a much brighter future for you and yours.
1. Make a list of the top 5 things you most want in your career or financial life ($x/year, fun atmosphere, etc).
2. Write down what 5 emotional needs those things fulfill (security, freedom, joy, etc).
3. Remember the last time you came up with a great solution to a problem. How did you feel just before that solution popped into your mind?
4. Remembering that feeling, notice where it is in your body. If it had a shape or color, what would it be?
5. Now that you’re engaged with your creativity and have given it form, ask it to find a few new solutions that will give you everything you want in lists #1 and 2.
6. From those solutions, decide which one or two you can employ right now to get yourself moving forward. Imagine taking the necessary steps with confidence, certainty, and excitement. It’s going to be great!
If any fears surface in regards to taking those steps, consider booking a private session.
